Monthly Archives: September 2010

A Matter Of Perspective

About a month ago I started a collection of writings that are no more than a sentence or two long.  I call these writings ‘mini musings’.  Several days ago I shared one of my mini musings with my Facebook and Twitter families.  For some reason that particular mini musing stuck in my head.

I tweeted and posted, “Sometimes all it takes to solve a problem is to change the perspective from which you are looking at it.  A new perspective can work wonders.”  That made me think back to the makeover on four rooms of my house that I undertook several years ago.  The twist on this makeover was that my house was in Texas, but I was in Europe.

I knew what I wanted for each room.  I selected paint and flooring and said a prayer that the den, master bedroom, master bathroom, and exercise room would be transformed into the spaces that I envisioned by the time that I returned from my five day business trip.

Amazingly I did not worry while I was away.  I had confidence that the contractors could and would make everything work.  That feeling changed when my return flight landed at the airport.  My confidence dwindled and I bounced between excitement and fear as I wondered what would greet me at my house.  The nervousness overtook me as I drove into my garage.  I fumbled with my keys and struggled to get the entrance door open.

I tipped inside and surveyed my surroundings.  The first renovation that I encountered was the den.  It was spectacular.  The new hardwood floors added warmth to the room and made it more inviting.

I moved onto the next piece of the project, the exercise room.  The ugly animal print border left by the previous owner was gone and the walls sported a radiant soft gold.

The next stop was the master bedroom.  The sea foam green of the walls and the beauty of the hardwood floors washed away the last bit of anxiety and induced a sense of peace in me.  Only one room was left.  I could not wait to see it.

I crossed the threshold into the master bathroom.  Words escaped me.  I could not believe that this was my bathroom.  The green on the walls jumped out at me, but not in the way that I expected or wanted.  There would be no long bubble baths in this bathroom.  The color was beyond unattractive.

I asked myself if I could live with the color.  I’m a glass half full type of person, but I was challenged to see any possibilities.  I took a step back and examined the room again.  There was no change.  Maybe I was influenced by jet lag.  A 15 hour trip can make a woman more sensitive to things than she normally would be.  It was late, so I decided to go to bed and wait to see how the color struck me the next day.

Eight house of sleep and fresh eyes did not help the situation.  Not only did I not see any improvement, the color seemed more extreme than the day before.  The light green that I hoped would be tranquil had mutated to granny smith apple green.  I told myself that there was still hope.  I had not placed the wall hangings and rugs back in the space.  I was certain that the room would look better with everything back in place.  After all, one of the reasons that I picked that particular color was because it looked like it would work with my existing wall hangings and rugs.

I put the four rugs and three wall hangings that were part of the old decor back in place.  They did not perform the magic that I hoped for.  The accessories clashed with the wall color and ramped the ugliness of the room up a notch.  “Don’t panic.”  That was all that I could say to myself as I tried to hold back the tears.

As I cleared the room of the obsolete items, a lotion bottle on the vanity caught my eye.  I noticed that the ocean blue bottle cap worked well with the green walls.  From that I concluded that adding touches of ocean blue into the room would tone down the wall color.  Off I went with the cap in hand to search for rugs and other decorations in that shade of blue.

I guess I should have paid more attention to the interior design magazines.  Blues were out that year.  Muted purples were in.  I didn’t find anything remotely close to what I was looking for.  I returned home deflated.  It was clear that I would have to work with what I had until I could paint the walls.

My pragmatic side surfaced, and I decided that the only accessory that I needed was a rug to step on when I got out of the shower.  Any rug would do until I was able to redo the walls, so I put my favorite of the old rugs back down.

Then I noticed something that I missed earlier.  By some twist of fate the green on the walls matched the green that swirled through the floral pattern of the rug.   A light went on in my mind.  I needed to approach the situation from a different perspective.  I decided to use the other colors of the rug to try to create a more soothing atmosphere.  I zeroed in on the ruby red and golden taupe that worked well with the green.

A few trips to my favorite home decor store and I found the accessories that I needed to complete my master bathroom.  It turned out that I had the bathroom that I wanted from the beginning.  I simply had to look at it from a different perspective to realize it.  I had to stop trying to make the new wall color work with the old decorations.  When I did that I opened myself up to new possibilities, and the option that I needed presented itself.

Life can be like that.  Sometimes we encounter a situation that at first glance appears unappealing, but when we stop judging it by our old way of thinking and seeing we open ourselves up to wonderful new prospects.

Is there something in your life that you could change from a challenge into a blessing by shifting your perspective?  What do you need to look at differently?  Perspective is powerful.  Let it work for you, not against you.

Blessings!

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

A Moment On Monday – 9/27/2010

Happy Monday!

What do you spend most of your time thinking about?  What you have, or don’t have?

The reality of a situation is not always determined by the situation, but by how we view it.  When we focus on what we don’t have, we often overlook what we have.  Many of us spend time, energy and money searching for something that we think will bring us happiness only to discover that happiness is not created by what we have.  Happiness comes from within.  It’s the way that we think about and view life.

Blessings!

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

A Moment On Monday – 9/20/2010 (A Day Late)

Yesterday was my birthday, which is why this post is a day late.

This was one of my best birthdays.  I shared and celebrated with family and friends.  Along with all of the celebrating, I took time to reflect back over the year gone by.  The last year of my life had its ups and downs, but I enjoyed it.  I appreciate each and every moment of it.  I have much to be thankful for.  I’m healthy, happy, and I have a wonderful network of family and friends that stand by me through the good and the bad.  I’m grateful to be able to share my life with them and to be a part of theirs.

I spent much of my life chasing dreams that would be fulfilled (or not) at some point in the future.  Often times I so focused on what would or could be that I did not notice what was.

Yesterday I focused on what was happening in the moment.  Being in the present is something that I will carry with me as I go forward.  Yes, I still have plans, and I still look forward to the future.  But the moment that is most important to me at this time is the one that I’m living right now.

Life is lived in moments.  These moments only come around once.  Lets savor and enjoy them.

Blessings!

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

Who Is At The Helm?

I woke up on Friday morning of last week to a day that was fully planned before I got out of bed.  I had much to do that day, so it was important that I stayed on schedule if I was to get everything done.  I did a few things on the computer, made some calls, dressed, and headed out to meet a friend for lunch.  I showed up at the restaurant.  She didn’t. Apparently we mixed up the time.

I was a bit irritated when it became clear that my lunch for two would be a lunch for one.  The list of all of the things that I could have been doing ran through my mind.  Then I remembered one of my earlier posts, Estimated Time Of Arrival, in which I talked about unexpected detours and the value of looking for hidden opportunities in them.  This was one of those glitches.  Something that was annoying, but not life altering.  I realized at that moment that I could either take the circumstances in stride and try to find a way to still enjoy the moment at hand, or I could be upset and let the situation set a negative tone for the rest of my day.

I decided to follow my own advice and look for treasure in the unexpected change of plan. I didn’t have to dig too deeply to uncover a gem.  I was alone, but I was at one of my favorite Tex-Mex restaurants.   I got over my fear of dining alone years ago, so there was no reason for me not to eat.  I was hungry and already at the restaurant.  I had a good table with a great view to a lovely day outside.  I decided to have lunch after all, even if it was lunch by myself.

I ordered fish tacos.  They were prepared to perfection.  I savored every morsel.  My dining experience lulled me into a state of relaxation.  After I finished my lunch, I decided to take a stroll and explore the enclave of small shops that surrounded the restaurant instead of rushing to my next stop

I uncovered a jewel of a stationery shop that carries my favorite line of journals.  A little farther down the walkway I stumbled upon a small independent chocolate shop where they still make chocolate by hand on site.  A few yards away a small pond shaded by trees beckoned me.  A couples of pieces of chocolate later I answered the call and headed toward the water.  I found the nearest bench and sat down to enjoy the light breeze that stirred.  After a few more pieces of chocolate I walked back to my car.  I could not help but to think what a wonderful day it was.

Sure, I would have enjoyed catching up with my friend, but I had a great time catching up with me.  I don’t remember the last time that I took an afternoon to check in with myself to see how I’m doing.  It was time well spent.  That afternoon set the tone for the rest of my day, and it carried over into my weekend.  I had one of the most peaceful weekends that I have had in a long time.

The glitch in my plan reminded me that I’m not in control at all times.  I would like to say that I’m always comfortable when I encounter situations that are beyond my control, but the truth is that I’m challenged in this area at times.  I understand the concept of letting go and letting God be God, but living by faith is sometimes a challenge for me.   I confess that at times I was uncomfortable with some of the paths that God led me down.  My discomfort was due to the fact I could not see the end point, and I like to know where I’m going.  But that’s what faith is about–believing and trusting even when we can not see the end.

The truth is that God has never failed me.  He has always guided me to a better destination than I could have planned for myself.  My ability is limited.  God’s ability is limitless.  I don’t know about you, but I would rather have someone with infinite power and ability navigating the ship that is my life.

One of my favorite scriptures is “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” (Proverbs 3:4-5 NKJV).  I read these words often.  I just have to remember to live them.

Are there times when you wonder what is going on in your life, or who is in control?  How do you respond?  With faith or doubt?  Maybe a little trust is in order.

“As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit.”  ~ Emmanuel Teney

Blessings!

A Moment On Monday – 9/13/2010

Happy Monday!  We plan out routes for our daily errands based on our desired destinations.  We should do no less for our lives.

When we follow the crowd, we usually end up in the same place as the crowd doing the same thing as the crowd.  But when we take the road less traveled, we are more likely to find our own path and discover the person that God created us to be.  God gave each of us special gifts that allow us to be what no one else can be–ourself.

”We have different gifts, according to the grace given us…” (Romans 12:6 NIV)

Blessings!

A Time To Be Still

We often underestimate what we can do in a month or a year, but overestimate what we can do in a day.  I have gotten better about trying to squeeze too many things into a day, but I’m still a work in progress.

Last week was hectic, because I didn’t schedule my days as well as I could have.  I reverted back to my old habit of trying to do everything at one time.  I continually added one more thing until there was not enough time in the day to do what was already on my ‘to do’ list for that day.  I was a bit frazzled by the end of the week, so I was ready for the Labor Day weekend.  I planned to take it easy during the long weekend and not do much.  I didn’t stick to my  ‘do nothing’ plan.  My weekend was fun, but it was jam packed.  When Tuesday of this week rolled around I realized that I was almost as tired as I was before the weekend, but I didn’t let the tiredness slow me down.

I had things to do, so I pushed through the fatigue.  That is until today.  Lack of energy and focus hit me this morning.  I could no longer ignore the fact that I needed to be still, breathe and re-focus.  Sometimes it’s not about doing but about being.  When I’m tired I find that I am less productive no matter how much time or energy I expend.  One sign that I need to stop and step away even if it’s only for a short break is when I do more but accomplish less.

I’m taking a short break today and doing something that I very much enjoy.  I started knitting again this morning after a couple of years away from my fiber crafting.  Knitting relaxes me.  It’s yoga for my mind.  It helps me to unwind and clear the confusion.

Since the goal is relaxation, I chose an easy project.  I’m a few rows into a simple shawl pattern that I purchased last year when I returned home from Finland.  That said, I’m going to keep this post short, so that I can get back to my knitting and my downtime.

Could you use some downtime?  Are you moving at warp speed and draining your battery faster than you can recharge it?  Have you done all that you can do, but still can not get it done?  Maybe it’s time to stop doing and be still.

“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him…” (Psalm 37:7 NIV)

Blessings!

Short Break

Hello Through Her Eyes Blog Followers…I’m taking a short break.  I will be away from Through Her Eyes Blog until Thursday, Sept 9th.  Have a Happy Labor Day.

Blessings!

See.  Live.  Enjoy.