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More Than Enough

Not too long ago a friend and I discussed some of the concerns and frustrations that he was experiencing on his job at that time.  We brainstormed about what we thought was really going on and some strategies that he could use to deal with the situation, including looking for another job.

Weeks went by and nothing changed at his job.  Still he decided to hang in there and opted not pursue other opportunities.  Why?  There are probably a number of reasons, but when he and I talked about the situation again, it was clear that the overriding reason was that he did not think that he had what he needed to make a change.  He believed that he needed more credentials and experience in certain areas.  The belief that he needed to do and be more paralyzed him.

I pointed out that he had everything that he needed.  Few, if any, of his co-workers had experience that matched his.  His skill set allowed him to step up and find solutions to problems that no one else could solve.  The team members that he supervised loved him and appreciated the guidance and leadership that he provided on projects.  The bottom line is that he did not need to be or have more.  He simply needed to recognize, appreciate and use what he already had.

One of the conversations with my friend replayed in my mind this morning as I sipped my cup of tea.  A light bulb went on in my head.  I realized that I was guilty of what I accused him of doing.  There was a time not too long ago that I was not using what I had.  I stopped blogging and writing for months, because I felt that I always needed to write long blog posts.

For several months I did not post anything.  During my time away from blogging I agonized about what I should write.  I started several posts, but I never finished them. Each time I convinced myself that those posts needed to say more.  The belief that my posts needed to be more shut down my blogging.

Fortunately my desire to write and blog was stronger than my concern about word count. That desire finally made me give myself permission to publish short posts, and freed me to launch “Wise Words”, a recurring post in which I share a quick thought that I find insightful.

One insight that I gained from this experience comes from a saying that states if we do not use what we have, we will not be blessed with more.  It’s not that I have to be or have more to be happy.  I don’t.  But I do believe that I have a responsibility to be a good steward of whatever is given to me, and that includes using the talents, gifts and opportunities that I have at any moment in time.

I may not always have the time to write a long post, but that’s okay.  Not everything that I want to say requires five hundred to a thousand words.  It’s more about the quality of the words that I write rather than the quantity.  Sometimes less is more.  After all, tweets are literally changing our world, and they are doing it in 140 characters or less.

With that in mind, I decided that my posts will be enough regardless of the word count. That decision broke away the shackles that prevented me from moving forward with my writing and helped me to start blogging again.  The bottom line is that I’m committed to using whatever I have wherever I am.

Is there something that you keep putting off until you have more, or think that you are more?  Do not over think it.  Start now.  Start where you are with what you have. Whatever we are and have at any given moment is usually more than enough for us to at least step out and start something.

“Whatever you’re ready for is ready for you.” – Mark Victor Hansen

Blessings.

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

Know Thyself

Hooray!  Through Her Eyes Blog (THE Blog) is three months old today.

THE Blog grew out of my search for a creative outlet.  I love to write, so a blog seemed like the perfect match.  Deciding to blog was easy.  Knowing how to start one and what to blog about was challenging.

After months of researching, thinking and planning, I decided that my blog intellect was high enough for me to leap into the world of blogging.  But I still had one problem.  I knew how to start a blog, but I had not settled on a subject to blog about.

I thought about the things and activities that I enjoy.  My mind almost immediately zeroed in on one of my great loves, food.  It’s not just about eating for me.  I appreciate the quality of food and technique required to prepare a great meal.  I decided to blog about food.  Dilemma solved.  I started the prep for my blog debut.

Breakfast is the first meal of the day, so I decided to make it the topic of my first post.  I prepared a three egg omelet with oven roasted potatoes and Gruyère cheese.  Chicken apple sausage, an English muffin with strawberry preserves, orange juice, and hot tea rounded out the offering.

I set the table and positioned the food.  Pride welled up inside of me as I surveyed the presentation that stood before me.  It was a scene straight out of one my cooking magazines.  The appearance and aroma drew me in.  I could no longer wait to taste my creation.  I sat down, picked up my fork and placed the first bite of omelet in my mouth.  The texture and flavor exceeded my expectation.  Each bite delighted me more than the previous one.  That is until I realized that I forgot to photograph my masterpiece.  By then almost half of the omelet was gone.  My love of food and hunger had exceeded my desire to memorialize the moment in pictures.  All I could do was to say “oh well” and continue eating.  In my mind there was no reason to disrupt my meal just to take a few snapshots of partially eaten food.

That moment helped me to understand that I probably never will be a good food blogger.  I have the requisite love and respect of food and the pickiness of a foodie, but I don’t have the patience to capture all of the details before I dive into the dish placed in front of me.  The truth is that being a foodie does not necessarily make one a good food blogger.  I’m okay with that fact.  There are plenty of wonderful food blogs out there, and I’m satisfied to read some of them instead of writing my own.

I accepted that food blogging was not my niche, but I still had to figure out what was.  I asked myself a question at that point.

“Who is Wyletter Whaley?”

I figured if I answered this question, I would find my niche.

The answer surprised me a bit.  I’m a storyteller at heart.

I have written in some form or another since fifth grade, but I never considered myself a storyteller until I went to see a career counselor about eight years ago.  She asked me to write a plan for my life and to share it with her.

When I finished reading the narrative detailing the life and career that I envisioned for myself, the counselor said, “You speak in paragraphs.  You tell a story with your words.”

I stopped and thought about what she said.  I had to agree with her.  What can I say?  I love words, and I love to communicate what’s going on around me.  I love to tell stories.  That’s what life is—a series of stories.

I recognized that I loved storytelling then, but I never looked for ways to express this love until I started my search for an online identity.  When I acknowledged the storyteller in me, I realized that I wanted to blog about the stories of everyday life.

This was a learning moment for me.  It emphasized the need to know myself and what I enjoy.  This principle applies outside of the blogging world.  One of the keys to success and happiness is knowing who we are and what we enjoy doing.

Do you know who you are?  Are you living your joy?  If not, it’s time to make one of the most important journeys that we can make–the journey to knowing ourselves and discovering our passion.  If we’re not passionate about who we are and our goals, we will not be inspired to accomplish them.  Passion makes the difference.  Know yourself.  Find your passion.

Blessings.

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

The Eyes Have It

Welcome.  After months of thinking and planning I’m happy to launch Through Her Eyes Blog (“THE Blog”).  THE Blog is dedicated to the idea that what we see and how we see something depends on the eyes that we look through.  More specifically THE Blog explores the power of perspective and the art of change–how we view, pursue and deal with life.

I plan to post at least once a week, usually on Tuesdays.  The topics that could come under the categories of perspective and change are too numerous to try to list, but my goal is that most of what I present will be related to some facet of  perspective or change.  In general I will write about the experiences, observations and thoughts that I make as I look at, deal with and live life. That said, I’m sure that a few of my favorite topics, travel, food, books, writing, and language, will show up in THE Blog with some regularity.

Stay tuned.  More to come.