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What Eight Words Taught Me

This past weekend I decided to tackle the stack of magazines that I had set aside to read later.  My first not-so-hot-off-the-presses selection was the February 2012 issue of O Magazine.  I thumbed through the magazine until the caption “You…In Six Words” caught my attention and made me pause.  As I read on I discovered that writer Larry Smith issued a challenge in which he asked his readers to describe their lives in six words.

The Six-Word Memoir challenge generated a huge reaction, and Oprah shared the responses of some of her readers.  Perusing the article made me think about what my six word memoir would look like.  I wondered how I would describe my life in six words.  I did not have to wonder long.  Six words popped into my mind almost immediately.  “I live my best life everyday.”

Although those six words pretty much described how I saw my life, something still nagged at me.  There was something more.  Something that I missed.  Apparently I needed a few more words to accurately convey how I live my life.  I needed an eight word memoir to be exact.  “I CHOOSE TO live my best life everyday.”

Those words resonated with me and summed up how I live my life.  You see I live my best life everyday, because everyday I wake up and choose to do so.  Not everyday rolls along as smoothly as I wish, but everyday I live the best life possible under the circumstances.

I wish that I could say that I have always lived this way, but I can’t.  There were many years of my life that I passed time by waiting to get to the place or thing that I thought would make me live a better or happier life.

I’m a different person now.  I’ve grown, and those eight little words helped me to see how much my outlook on my life has changed for the better.  Life is too precious for me to spend my time waiting to live my best life.  That’s why I choose to live my best life everyday.

That’s my story, so to speak.  What’s yours?  Share your story.  What does your six or eight word memoir look like?  Why did you select your particular words?

“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Blessings.

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

Wise Words – 4/16/2012

More Than Enough

Not too long ago a friend and I discussed some of the concerns and frustrations that he was experiencing on his job at that time.  We brainstormed about what we thought was really going on and some strategies that he could use to deal with the situation, including looking for another job.

Weeks went by and nothing changed at his job.  Still he decided to hang in there and opted not pursue other opportunities.  Why?  There are probably a number of reasons, but when he and I talked about the situation again, it was clear that the overriding reason was that he did not think that he had what he needed to make a change.  He believed that he needed more credentials and experience in certain areas.  The belief that he needed to do and be more paralyzed him.

I pointed out that he had everything that he needed.  Few, if any, of his co-workers had experience that matched his.  His skill set allowed him to step up and find solutions to problems that no one else could solve.  The team members that he supervised loved him and appreciated the guidance and leadership that he provided on projects.  The bottom line is that he did not need to be or have more.  He simply needed to recognize, appreciate and use what he already had.

One of the conversations with my friend replayed in my mind this morning as I sipped my cup of tea.  A light bulb went on in my head.  I realized that I was guilty of what I accused him of doing.  There was a time not too long ago that I was not using what I had.  I stopped blogging and writing for months, because I felt that I always needed to write long blog posts.

For several months I did not post anything.  During my time away from blogging I agonized about what I should write.  I started several posts, but I never finished them. Each time I convinced myself that those posts needed to say more.  The belief that my posts needed to be more shut down my blogging.

Fortunately my desire to write and blog was stronger than my concern about word count. That desire finally made me give myself permission to publish short posts, and freed me to launch “Wise Words”, a recurring post in which I share a quick thought that I find insightful.

One insight that I gained from this experience comes from a saying that states if we do not use what we have, we will not be blessed with more.  It’s not that I have to be or have more to be happy.  I don’t.  But I do believe that I have a responsibility to be a good steward of whatever is given to me, and that includes using the talents, gifts and opportunities that I have at any moment in time.

I may not always have the time to write a long post, but that’s okay.  Not everything that I want to say requires five hundred to a thousand words.  It’s more about the quality of the words that I write rather than the quantity.  Sometimes less is more.  After all, tweets are literally changing our world, and they are doing it in 140 characters or less.

With that in mind, I decided that my posts will be enough regardless of the word count. That decision broke away the shackles that prevented me from moving forward with my writing and helped me to start blogging again.  The bottom line is that I’m committed to using whatever I have wherever I am.

Is there something that you keep putting off until you have more, or think that you are more?  Do not over think it.  Start now.  Start where you are with what you have. Whatever we are and have at any given moment is usually more than enough for us to at least step out and start something.

“Whatever you’re ready for is ready for you.” – Mark Victor Hansen

Blessings.

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

Love Note – 3/3/2012

A Simple Thing

Oh My God!  The temperature climbed to 77 degrees in Dallas today.  That’s not an unusual temperature for north central Texas during the spring and summer months, but it’s still winter according to the calendar.

The day took my breath away when I stepped outside.  A few high clouds floated by overhead as the sun beamed down and chased away the chill that the morning typically brings.  It was the kind of day that makes you want to play hooky from work and find something to do outside, so that you can take advantage of the perfect weather.  I didn’t.  I went into the office, but I will admit that thoughts of me sitting by the pool with sunglasses and a good book repeatedly invaded my mind.

In a world where we are connected 24/7 and receive a never ending stream of information about breakthroughs and major events, a warm sunny day in Dallas in February may not seem like anything worth taking note of.  For some of us it may not have enough wow factor to capture our attention.  I have been there.  In that place where I needed the ‘incredible’ to make me pause.

A few years ago I probably would have been in such hot pursuit of whatever was on my calendar for that day that I would have failed to fully appreciate the splendor of a day like today.  But thank God that most of us wise up at some point.  I learned that if we only focus on the so-called big things in life, we spend much of our life bored, discontented and waiting for the next big thing.

There absolutely is a time and place to celebrate the spectacular, but if we can appreciate the simple things, the extraordinary things seem even more special.  We may even realize that the simple things are sometimes the most extraordinary things.

Do you notice the simple things?  Do you recognize the blessing in a beautiful day or the gift of the presence of people in your life who always seem to be there and love you unconditionally?  If the answer to these questions is no, perhaps it’s time for you to slow down, disconnect for a moment and take a look around you at the things that are simple but priceless.

“It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary.” – Paulo Coelho

Blessings.

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

Wise Words – 2/20/2012

Happy Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day!  May your heart and life overflow with love.  Share the love.

“To love someone deeply gives you strength.  Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao-Tzu

Blessings.

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

Steve Jobs (1955 – 2011)

Steve,
Rest in peace.

A Day Is…

A day often does not seem like much time when we look at what we want to do in a day. The reality is that many of us try to squeeze too much into twenty-four hours.  We often become frustrated when the day ends and we realize that we were not able to complete all of the things we planned.

Some of us even start the day thinking that it’s just another day, so why bother to expect anything good or different than the previous day.  But before we write off another day, let’s consider what a day is.

A day is a gift, give thanks for it.
A day is an opportunity, seize it.
A day is a journey, travel it.
A day is beauty, see it.
A day is precious, cherish it.
A day is life, live it.

Now that we know what a day really is, let’s welcome each day with appreciation and expectation of good.

Blessings!

See.  Live.  Enjoy.

Living Through Change

A friend and I recently met for dinner and chatted about what was going on in our lives.  The topic that dominated our conversation was how much change we both have experienced during the last few years.  Whether we like it or not, change occurs.  Some change we welcome with open arms.  Other change we avoid at all costs until we realize that we have no choice in the matter.  Regardless of whether we view a change as good or bad, living through it can be stressful.  If we are not careful we can lose our sense of stability and well-being.

I shared in an earlier post that a few changes recently took place in my life.  The changes were good, and I readily embraced them.  But even good change is change, and at times I felt off balance.  How did I survive the changes?  To the extent possible, I continued to do the things that I normally do that keep me calm and grounded.  When I stepped back and looked at my daily routine, I realized that there are seven simple but powerful habits that I do that help to keep my sense of peace and well being intact.

Habit #1  Pray
Each day is a gift, and I start it with a prayer.  I thank God for the day, and I ask Him to direct my steps.

Habit #2  Feed My Body
I figured out early in life that I cannot focus when I am hungry.  I feed my body “good for me” food throughout the day.  For me this usually means three meals and two or three snacks.

Habit #3  Be Quiet And Still 
Constant noise and movement can frazzle the most relaxed person.  I step away from the noise of the day and take a deep breath.  Even five minutes away from all of the buzz can stop or slow down the frenzy that we often find ourselves in.

Habit #4  Feed My Spirit And Mind
It is not just our bodies that need to be fed.  I want to maintain a positive attitude and state of mind, so I need to take in nourishment for my spirit and mind.  One of the ways that I do this is by reading something uplifting and inspiring everyday.

Habit #5  Tap Into The Power of Love
There is no greater power or support than love.  It is important to give and receive love.  Whether in-person or by phone or internet, I communicate with loved ones everyday.

Habit #6  Laugh
Laughing is good for the body, spirit and mind.  It decreases stress, and that helps to strengthen the body’s immune system.  I find a reason to laugh everyday whether it is by reading a funny story, watching a sitcom, or hanging out with people who love to have fun.

Habit #7  Pray Again
I end the day the way that I start it.  I pray.  I thank God for carrying me through the day, and I talk to Him about the events of the day.  Ending my day with prayer helps me to release my concerns and prepares me for a good night’s sleep.

This is what I do to help me stay calm.  What are the things that you do on a regular basis to keep your balance?  These are the things that can help you maintain a sense of peace and security during the uncertainty that sometimes accompanies change.

“Change brings opportunity.” – Nido Qubein

Blessings!

See.  Live.  Enjoy.